I can't believe I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. It has been a wonderful ride, and I am so thankful that I met him. However, prior to meeting him, I was single for a couple of years, and was a serial dater for around a year.From my traditional perspective, I never messaged a guy first. The two times that I had messaged the guy first, we wound up dating for a while, but the balance was never right, and I was played both times.
My single guy friends and I would go out on weekend nights, playing wing man for each other. There is something really awesome and fun when you have a great group of guy and girl single friends. My guy friends and I would get into arguments about my refusal to write a guy first. They said that if a girl has interest she should let the guy know. In my opinion, there are too many players out there to go about it that way. (For the record there are plenty of girl players too. . . they just operate differently than their male counterparts.)
Now whenever I started to exclusively date a guy I took my profile down. Then when I was single again I put a new profile back up. (TIP: Make sure you use new pictures and a freshen up the text each time you return to online dating.) The first day my profile went up, I averaged between 100 to 200 new messages. At least 75% of those guys would be blocked immediately. A one line message with no substance, dirty mirror, demand list in their profile, totally negative profile, or NSA directed me right to the block button.
ARE YOU A QUALITY GUY
Well if you are a quality guy, you will be contacting women . . . a lot of them. Finding the right match takes time. Sure some people are lucky and meet the person right away, some people also settle into relationships. A quality guy doesn't feel the clock ticking, and knows that he is number one in his life, until he meets his queen. He is hobby dating when it fits into his schedule, and he will not start to change his schedule until he knows that the girl is worth it.
HOW DO GIRLS FIND QUALITY GUYS
Girls don't, the quality guy finds her. My boyfriend caught me with a one line message "the naked man - that's awesome." He read my profile, and picked one thing out of it to comment on. I remember that night so clearly because I was messaging with some other guys and the weather was very bad. I was tired and didn't even feel like messaging with anyone . . . but that one line, made me laugh, showed me he was interested, and was such a fresh comment that I had to reply.
I have coached many of my friends into long lasting relationships, and I can't believe I am sharing my secret girl to guy advice with you.
K10 GUYS RULES FOR FISHING
Remember you are a quality guy surrounded by players, and these rules will help you.
1) Filter the girls you are interested in and review your search results. Women will fib about their weight, just like how guys fib about their height. (TIP: Guys under 5'10" tend to add 1 inch to their true height.)
2) Check out the girls pictures and pick the ones you like.
(Do not get stuck in your head. Don't think she is out of your league . . . she's not.)
Now to play the numbers game you are going to write every girl who's picture you like. Quickly scan her profile and pick out one detail to comment on.
3) Never show a girl that you have no idea where your life is going or what is happening day to day.
There are so many boymen on the market today. Their life is a mess, and they have no idea where they are day to day. You need to have 1 goal, any goal, just 1 that is true to who you are.
You are playing the numbers like the players. You are sending out your hook and seeing if anyone bites.
For every 100 messages you send out, you can expect about 10 replies. A quality girl will reply to you on her time. She may only check her online dating account once a week. Quality girls and guys never feel pressured. Remember she doesn't know you yet. You are still a stranger. Once you start communicating with each other, the communication should be consistent. People that pop in and out of contact with you in the dating scene are treating you as an option. You want to be a priority. People treat you the way you let them treat you. No women is entitled to walk all over you, because you are a decent man.
Do not be afraid to cut conversations short with girls. Your goal is getting from one date to the next. You want to make it to the third date. You want to spend time with the person you are dating. Not create an online texting romance.
NEVER DISCUSS SEX BEFORE YOU MEET!
NEVER DISCUSS SEX BEFORE YOU MEET!
NEVER ASK A GIRL FOR MORE PICTURES BEFORE YOU MEET!
These are entrance topics and questions to NSA.
DO ASK:
What do you think an ideal relationship looks like?
Some people text all the time, while others are still paying per text . . . how often do you text and what do you think is the right amount of time to get a reply?
What was the most fun you have ever had?
If money was no object what would do right now?
DO:
CUT THE CONVERSATION SHORT WHEN IT IS GOING REALLY WELL
KEEP YOUR WORD - If you say you are going to call, make sure you call when you say you will.
SHOW UP ON TIME - I arrive at a date 15 minutes prior to the time we are supposed to meet, because I am checking you out. It is amazing what you guys do while I am watching you from a hidden location. I will show myself after you text me you are there and I have had the chance to get a good look at you. If you misrepresented yourself, I will leave. One guy "delayed" our first date and hour because his cousin needed help with something. He said "It's my cousin and he is my family so I have to help him." He called me 5 minutes before we were supposed to meet. I was already there. I agreed to see him in an hour . . .but within 10 minutes I was so pissed that I drove home and texted him that it just isn't going to work. He also turned stalkerish.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF and HAVE FUN!
I WELCOME COMMENTS FROM GUYS and GIRLS.
Please get to know each other and help each other out!
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