Girl Code is very different than Guy Code. Where Guy Code consists of rules of play to ensure the guys play nice together, Girl Code, is actually the way that girls speak.
As always, I am not claiming to be an expert on anything, and my articles are all based on my personal experience and opinions.
Have you ever listened to a group of girls or women speaking? There seems to be no order or logic, and the conversations can be exhausting for a man to follow. Many men, won't follow the girl talk, and will tune it out. A great way for women to share confidential information together often right next to the guys they are talking about; who are tuning them out. So what are the women saying?
GIRL CODE
Breaking the code is very simple once you understand the pattern. First, every girl who is in the group, comes with the expectation that she will get to express her opinions and hopefully get some good advice from her girlfriends.
All girls are entitled to speak about whatever they want, whenever they want. When Marsha wants to talk about dogs and Jane about cats, Marsha will lead the conversation about dogs, and then Jan will answer first by acknowledging what Marsha said, then start a new conversation about cats. Then Marsha will continue to speak about dogs and answer Jane about cats. I know this is confusing, even for me, and I am a girl.
Marsha and Jane are enjoying their chat, and Cindy walks in the room. They acknowledge Cindy is joining in the conversation. Cindy asks what they are talking about, then says to them "Dogs and cats are so hairy, I don't like them at all . . . reminds me of that guy Peter. Speaking of Peter, did anyone see his new hair cut?"
Now there are three conversations happening at one time in a round robin fashion. Answer each of the topics on the floor, and add your own. The women will speak erratically. They connect two topics that have nothing to do with each other. Girls can take you down a rabbit hole and pull you back out at a rate of 60+wpm. They can switch the order of the conversation without warning. It is the responsibility of the listener to keep up.
The only exclusion to the circular conversation, is when something very traumatic is happening to one of the girls. In that case, there will be only one topic spoken about at that time. That one topic will continue on and on and on, until the time when that girl says she "doesn't want to talk about it anymore." This could be minutes, days or months. Sometimes women will avoid each other because they know they are supposed to be there, and listen, but sometimes it is just too much for any girl to handle.
I hope this gives you a little more insight into Girl Code. Next time you hear a group of girls talking, try to notice how many different subjects they are negotiating at one time.
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Kristen :-)
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